My mom used to love my husband when we were dating!

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Permalink Reply by Tracy on September 16, 2008 at 11:54pm

Hi! Parents can be weird at times. Do you think your mom feels like she has lost the relationship/mom daughter time with you? She seems angry about something especially with the gifts she gave. What about your Dad could he talk to her? Has your mom & your husband had an arguement? Or maybe there is something else going on with your mom that has nothing to do with your husband or family-but you are the ones she's taking it out on? My mom has a tendency to do that. I hope it helps!

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Permalink Reply by Caringmom on September 17, 2008 at 4:20pm

I pray that she will understand that know matter how we may feel about each other the kids come first. We sometimes live our lives according to what our parents want but when
you have a family with a hubby and kids then know matter what everyone should respect each other. I hope and pray that you won't hold this against her just pray and ask God to guide you through this difficult time.
Until next time: God Bless!!

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Permalink Reply by Susanne ODonnell on September 17, 2008 at 5:18pm

wow. A mom that babysits and buys presents and burns bridges for parties. yeah, she sounds very controling. You should sever all ties. ASAP. unless your husband doesn't agree....

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Permalink Reply by Shawna on September 17, 2008 at 5:24pm

Wow!! I'm so sorry about your Mom and your husband!! I bet it would be stressful. I think that your mom has to realize that your husband will always be around. If he makes you happy she should act like an adult and bite her tongue and be happy for you!! Maybe there is some issue that has to be resolved between her and your husband?? Well good luck with what ever happens down the road. And I hope things get better for you!! Oh Happy Birthday to Olivia!!!

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Permalink Reply by Jen the Dust Bunny Hostage on October 1, 2008 at 11:29am

Your husband comes FIRST. He is the father of your kids and you have to make your home a peaceful place for them. Your kiddos need a DAD much more than they need Grandma. If she continues to behave terribly toward him? "Bye Mom. Call me when you feel like playing nice."

My guess is that if you were up front, told her that your husband was your first priority and you were not going to play into the pouty power trip anymore, it would shock her enough to fall in line.

And if your husband KNOWS that he is the number one, over mom and dad, and everyone else, I PROMISE it would strengthen your marriage.

I hope everything works out OK for you.

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Permalink Reply by Gloria on October 1, 2008 at 12:01pm

Hi Melissa,
It seems so simple, then someone has to have a power play, why? But people do, they become unraveled about silly arguments that are senseless. In real time, time is always going and those great grandma moments are ticking away. Your mom is the one who is losing out here. What ever her issues are if worthy should be aired out with your husband, if they are a little bit more heady, maybe you should ask mom and say, "whats up" why are you being guarded with my husband? Has something happened? Did he say something wrong, or did you take something he said the wrong way? What ever it is, lets stop this silliness of not wanting to come over when my husband is home, he is the father of my daughter and I respect him in every way. That should help mom know that she should not be thinking of coming between the two of you. You love and respect her as mom and grandma, but she should not be creating power struggles with in your family.

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Permalink Reply by Lynette on October 7, 2008 at 7:30am

Wow your mother sounds like the way mine acts sometimes it's hard to deal with the stress of it all but you sound like a strong mother, keep in mine your kids look up to you. That's how I act! Stay strong..

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Permalink Reply by marie on October 7, 2008 at 8:31am

Yes, your mom is acting very silly. You have to establish some respect in how your parents treat you and your husband; she has to understand that it's your life...she has to let go.

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Permalink Reply by Karla on October 9, 2008 at 9:02pm

I had a similar situation, all I needed to do was make it clear that I had a beautiful family who I adored and needed to be respected and it was going to be all of us or none of us. sure it was tough at first but now it couldn't be better.

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