I need some help here. My husband and I have been happily married for quite some time now, but he is my 2nd husband. I have 3 children already but he and I do not have any together. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, who is now 4, my ex and I had just began divorce proceedings and I decided to get my tubes tied and be done having children. I thought three was enough.
All of this time, my husband has told me he doesn't want to have any more children, then last night, he drops this bomb shell that he wants ANOTHER BABY! OMG!!!
I thought I was almost out of the woods. Our youngest is about to start school and we are almost to the point where they are all old enough to do fun things - i.e. family vacations that don't necessarily involve cartoon characters. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to have a baby with him. The problem is 1) I am moving up quickly in my career and don't really have time to raise a baby right now, 2) I would have to go through either fertility treatments or have a reversal to even make an effort to get pregnant - we're trying to save to buy our dream home - not sure I want to drop $15K on fertility drugs, and 3) My kids are 10, 6, and 4 now and the idea of more sleepless nights, diapers, etc., just doesn't appeal to me right now.
Am I overly selfish for thinking about denying him a chance to have a biological child? I am just a frustrated mess of emotions and I don't know what to do.
Any advice would be greatly and I mean GREATLY appreciated. How do I tell the love of my life I don't want him to knock me up?