In DIRE Need of a Date Night?

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Permalink Reply by Amy Turner on July 7, 2009 at 7:53am

I think our last date night was pre 2005 when our 4 year old was born. We have great times out as a family but we need a little time for just us. To de-stress and re-connect without worrying about entertaining the 4 year old or wondering if the 13 year old is embarrassed by us.

We have two boys, ages 13 and 4 and my 13 year old is just not quite ready for babysitting and we don't have any family around to help out. My husband has recently been laid off so we can't really afford a date night anyway, despite the lack of babysitting. He is working odd jobs to just make ends meet along with unemployment.

Thanks for the opportunity.

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Permalink Reply by Vanesa Ortiz on July 7, 2009 at 8:00am

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I am only 21 yrs old and i have a 17 month. I am married and my husband works 2 states away from where we live. He comes home to sleep and eat and thats a daily routine for us. On the days i have off from work which i work close to 50/hrs a week to try and make ends meet, i spend cleaning my house and doing housewhole chores. On days he has off from work, he spends sleeping or taking care of the baby. Its taken a huge toll on me, because i am so young and it hurts that i''m missing out on everything in life because i was forced to grow up. I dont even remember the last time me and my husband were intimate with each other.
My son is a blessing but i don't have a chance to spend with my husband who, after all these obstacles, i still love 100% and i cannot imagine my life without him, afterall, he gave me the best gift ever.

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Permalink Reply by Tasha Riley on July 7, 2009 at 8:06am

I don't even remember what a real date night feels like. We rarely go out alone together, and when we do it's usually somewhere quick so we can get back to the kids. This date now sounds like a dream!

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Permalink Reply by Zynique Pate on July 7, 2009 at 8:25am

My husband and I are in desperate need of a date night because we both work so hard to take care of our little one. We rarely get time by ourselves because he works 2nd shift and goes to school full-time. When we are able to spend time with one another it is when we are ready to go to bed. We don't really allow anyone to keep our daughter because of past situations. It would mean so much to us to win this prize and be able to spend some quality time with one another. Good Luck to everyone.

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Permalink Reply by Crystall Reder on July 7, 2009 at 8:46am

I am almost hesistant to write this, as I feel that in some way I am trying to outdo everyone else's reply. In reading these responses, it is obvious that these ladies really need a date night. And, I am sure their husbands need it too. But, the fact is, date nights are lost somewhere between changing diapers and attempting to control two-yr old temper tantrums in Walmart- or, even worse, trying to walk the fine line between being a friend and being a parent to a teeanger. Parents tend to sacrifice alone time for their children, often thinking that they are doing what is best.
After four years (almost five) of doing exactly that, my husband and I are finally realizing that we are also very important. Our connection must not be forgotten or looked-over. Slowly, we are trying to change our mindset. We, as parents, are the foundation for our family and the building blocks that make it strong and stable.
So, having said all of that, yes, we are in dire need of a date night. My husband and I have been on three dates since the birth of our first child, nearly five years ago. We are hesitant to leave our children with people who do not have experience (we have three and it can be quite busy); and, we are not-so-sure who can be trusted. Having moved to Las Vegas (Sin City), how do we know that our choice for a sitter for our children is not one of those sinners?
Good luck to all of the moms (and dads) who desperately need this date night. Let us not forget that our connection and intimacy is what helped us make our children; it needs not be forgotten as being something very very important.

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Permalink Reply by jamie M Wagers on July 7, 2009 at 9:08am

My husband and I have 5 children and have been married 9 years. His job can often have him traveling for weeks at a time. Next summer he will be gone for three months. Even when he is home it is hard to get away. Between T-ball, Baseball, Soccer, Swimming, and football, our time is pretty much all taken up with the kids. If we have free time it is to do schoolwork because we are both going to school online trying to finish our Bachelor degrees. He is the sole provider and any extra money goes to buy stuff for the children or have a specail day with them. We get a date night maybe once a year if we are lucky and use gift certificates given to us by family for our birthdays. I am a mom who is guilty of ignoring her husband and giving all of my love and devotion to my children while neglegting my hubby.
We married two days after my 19th birthday, he was 25, everyone thought we were too young, but we have proven them all wrong!

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Permalink Reply by Chelle on July 7, 2009 at 9:22am

We need a date night because since the economy hit and I lost my big time job and am working PT now, I'm last on my list. DH does a great job of taking care of everything, so it's just NOT reasonable in my mind to insist we splurge on us. When we do get out, it's usually a social obligation or a family thing. We haven't been out for no good reason since the kids spent the day with their grandparents for a couple hours before the end of the school year, when we came home, cleaned the house, and slept!
Help, we could do with a little indulgence!

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Permalink Reply by Lesa Ghali on July 7, 2009 at 9:31am

Help!!!! I desperately need to reconnect with my husband. 11 years of marriage, and 3 kids, we need to get to know each other again.

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Permalink Reply by Vicki on July 7, 2009 at 10:01am

I am pregnant with my second and need a date night before my life gets even crazier!!

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Permalink Reply by jbrockardt on July 7, 2009 at 11:04am

I have 13 month old twin boys and my husband works 80 hours a week to provide for us...we literally have no time or $ to go out on a date :-(

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Permalink Reply by Amanda Morar on July 7, 2009 at 11:34am

I'm the mother of two boys 10months and 3years i really ever get a night to myself. i work full time to provide for my kids and fiance is on disiability so our income is limited and if i'm not caring for the kids i'm caring for him... what i would do for one night out away omg you dont even know, but i wouldnt trade my kids for anything they are the best...

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Permalink Reply by Joy on July 7, 2009 at 11:48am

Our wedding anniversary is July 14th. We're unable to afford a date night because both of us have lost our jobs. But because of the financial hardship things have been hard on our relationship and is beginning to lose the spark. I really think a night out would help ease our minds from everything.

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