In DIRE Need of a Date Night?

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Permalink Reply by stacey laswell on July 13, 2009 at 12:15pm

My fiance and i could use a date night so badly...i am a stay at home mom for our children due to the expenses of daycare while my fiance works 60 plus hours a week to pay the bills...i honestly can't remember the last time he and i were able to go out and enjoy an evening together without children...we either can't afford to go out or one of us is just too tired to do anything. we've talked many times about planning date nights once in a while but again, finances have hindered that for us...we have been together for 11 years and i think due to the lack of date nights or just alone time in general we have both grown to be a little too comfortable with where we are and a date night might be just the thing to rekindle the flame that began our relationship! :) Good luck to everyone!! :D

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Permalink Reply by Maggie Hesse on July 13, 2009 at 10:38pm

I really need a date night! I am a breast cancer survivor that was diagnosed just 13 days after our son was born. The last 3 years have been very stressful. My body has paid the price but so has our intimacy. We are so in love and really have a deeper relationship but we just need to rekindle the romance with a night out.

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Permalink Reply by Lisa Hill on July 14, 2009 at 6:27am

My husband and I very much need a night out as we have zero couple time together anymore. I work 12 hour shifts as a police dispatcher and he is a full time caregiver to his mother who lives with us and is completely dependent on him. She has numerous medical problems (too many to list) and is bedridden. I feel like the couple my husband and I used to be is gone. Every moment of our lives has been devoted to either our children or his mother. We have been together for 17 years and for the past couple of years haven't even been able to celebrate our anniversary together due to conflicting schedules. Having a night out , just the two of us, would be a wonderful thing. I love him so very much and feel that we need to reconnect as a couple again.

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Permalink Reply by Tamika Wilks on July 15, 2009 at 5:14am

GM Momligic! I need a nice, romantic night out with my boyfriend because he had to just relocate to VA and we only get to see one another once a month. The distance is very hard sometimes and I Miss Him Dearly. I have been layed off from my job, of 21 years, since Oct. '08 and need some "Me" time well spent with my Honey. Wish Me Luck!!!

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Permalink Reply by Mary Vannatter on July 16, 2009 at 5:05pm

I am a single mother.my daughter is 15.Thats a job in its self.About 4 years ago I had to quit my job I was so fatigued and my body hurt so bad that I just couldnt work any more. About 6 months later I was finally diagnosed with rhuematoid arthritis and fibromyalgia.As some people might know that comes with a long list of problems ...restless leg syndrom, migrain headaches,pain in the joints nerves,tendons,just pain everywhere1!!thats just a small amount of problems I have.I havent been out in so long mainly from that and lack of money.It would be such a blessing to win this .Some people would take this for granted but it would make such a big impact in my life.I hope that you find it in your hearts to pick me,I would be so grateful

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Permalink Reply by Rebecca Weber on July 17, 2009 at 9:56am

I dont really want to focus on the negative aspects of our daily routine.. I guess it is just what we do as parents to make ends meet and do what is necessary for a happy child or happy children. No we dont spend time together and we are often soo tired that we cant even look at each other but our child is happy and healthy and that is what matters. I would love for the chance for us to be able to go out together and rekindle what we have put on hold as that too is very important.

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Permalink Reply by Clare Van on July 17, 2009 at 5:01pm

Prior to meeting my husband, I had been a single mom with three jobs for nine years. I had one boyfriend and a handful of outings in that time.I met my husband and I got pregnant seven months after we met against all odds. He had had a vasectomy seven years earlier. This was in February 2008. In May 2008 I was diagnosed with a malignant tumor on my right ovary with a cyst the size of a grapefruit during my fourth month of pregnancy. It required immediate surgery. The baby survived.If I hadn't gotten pregnant, I would have died. In July, after recuperating from surgery, I returned to work only to find that three weeks later they were going to lay me off. In August, I developed carpal tunnel so bad that I couldn't even write a note. In September I discovered I had a really bad case of gestational diabetes and had to give myself four shots of insulin a day. In October my father in law was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Five days later I had the baby five weeks premature. She was in NICU for a week.In November I found that I was not eligible for unemployment, thus began our trips to the food bank. My husband was working two jobs, and there still wasn't enough money. In December, we knew we were going to lose our home. In February we moved into my parents house although my mom and I don't get along. In March my older daughter's dad informed me he can't pay me child support. In April my husband's father died whom my husband was taking care of despite working seven days a week. I'm lucky if I see him more than ten hours a week. I have been desperately trying to find a job for eight months, and I can't foresee us moving out anytime soon, despite the fact I have the worst case of postpartum blues.I am so in love with my husband, but I feel so lost and hopeless and I can't shake it. I feel single because my husband is always gone trying to support us on a cruddy paying job. He is older too, so his prospects are slim for a better paying job despite having a degree. I barely smile, and my husband has been so great dealing with all of this. We have been together for two years, but haven't been able to enjoy each other due to all the stress and lack of money. We need marital counseling, because we are not communicating well and have not had any fun at all, period since the beginning. We need this so much. I'm afraid if we don't have some together time, and ease our stress, we're not going to make it. We have a lot of love for each other and for the girls, but we are at the breaking point. I believe that this would make my husband and I smile once again, if only for a night.......Thank you for listening...

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Permalink Reply by Amanda Eisel on July 19, 2009 at 3:15pm

I am a mom of 3 wonderful, loving daughters. My fiance and I are in dire need of a date night. We r currently living with my fiances parents because of our financial situation. So now we really have no privacy, we share a fairly large room with our 3 DD's. We really could use some alone time.
Thanks for this opportunity! Good luck to all.

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Permalink Reply by Artistasoyyo on July 19, 2009 at 9:27pm

Hi, I'm a retired stay at home Mom. I have two boys 15 and 13yrs old. I retired early because of my 13yrs son. He has A.S.D. (Autism Spectrum Disorder.) Wow...how long has it been since I had a nice night out with my husband. Too long. To make a longgg story short since 1998 till the present I had some surgery. Had a knee surgery... so jogging is out of the question. I had a wrist surgery, had an inffection on my leg and almost lost my leg and now an abbsess. And for worst part I'm diabetic. I've been married for 18 wonderful yrs. and my poor husband had to be more then our provider through all of my ordeal. It's very difficult for him to work, clean and take care of the boys.He truely needs time for himself. He also had knee surgery and he's been having problems with his knee for the past 2 months. I'm truely blessed to have married him. I don't know what I would do without his help and support. I can't recall the last time we spent any time together since we had the boys and one is handicap for which it makes it harder. If we do go out which is rarely, we all go out together and we don't stay out that long because of our 13yrs old son. He has tantrums and is difficult at times to controll him. It would be wonderful at least for my husband to give him a night out to realax and enjoy a good dinner.

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Permalink Reply by Tina G on July 21, 2009 at 9:08pm

My husband and I have been married for 21 years now and we were planning a "Robert and Tina" trip to celebrate our relationship. But of course with the downturn in the economy who can afford such pleasures? He went to nursing school to help bring in more income and I am continue my work as a RN, Clinical Analyst. Seems like we will have to wait some more years before we can go on that trip. But just finding the time to just be together and be pampered is a chore. We desperately need this time to come together and realize why we continue to love one another through the good and bad times. My baby is grown and is a handsome 28 year old man...Living in Japan with my 3 fantastic grandsons! Now with that accomplishment I know I deserve a romantic evening with noone but me and my man! Hell...I deserve more than one but I don't want to look a gift horse in the mouth...To be honest after reading some of these post I see others are more deserving than we are...Good luck Moms!

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Permalink Reply by Amy Vasquez on July 22, 2009 at 8:10am

My husband and I are going to be celebrating our five year wedding anniversary on August 21st. When we were married we didn't have a wedding, because of the amount a wedding would cost. We have two small children and do not often get the opportunity to spend time with just the two of us. Money has been an issue also, so it would be really awesome to have win this contest!

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Permalink Reply by Amy Lipski on July 22, 2009 at 8:40am

I have a ten year old from a previous and very unhappy marriage. After a long drawn out divorce I met the man of my dreams. Perfect influence on my son, he loves him and so do I! We never "dated" much. We were home bodies and enjoyed each other's company alone at home and wanted to be here for my son. He eventually moved in and we began planning our wedding and we got a surprise! We named her Sophia! Sophie is such a joy and quite a handful! She has never in 18 mos slept through the night waking numerous times. Needless to say we are tired, haven't been able to make much time for each other. He is my best friend in the whole world and once we steal a moment together we never skip a beat. Those moments are few and far between and with never having "dated" and then having baby #2 I miss my husband more than you know. I'm staying home now and he works a lot so we can have me here with the kids but. we are a broke and tired and we miss that connection. We haven't been on a date in years. We need a real date to get totally swept up in each other! They say always put your oxygen mask on 1st and then your children's. It's the same in this case. we have to take care of the marriage so we can better take care of the kids. They need to see us doing things with and for each other! We need to be Bob and Amy, not Mom and Dad for the night. I promise if I am chosen this will not be wasted on us.

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