In DIRE Need of a Date Night?

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Permalink Reply by Linda Cleesattel on July 24, 2009 at 7:50pm

Now before anyone thinks this is a pity party or that I believe my life sucks it just isn't true. Yes sometimes it is very lonely, but over all I am still happy.

I've been happily married for just over seven years. My husband and I went through what they call a whirlwind courtship. We only knew each other for six months before we got married and I was living with him and his family for 4 months of that. We never really "dated" as we were together all the time. Through the course of being with him I can count our "dates" on one hand. Each of them was a nice dinner at TGIFs or Chili's or something of the like and if we were lucky we got to see a movie. I've sent more time pregnant that not (aside from the last 3 years, thank goodness I was smart enough to get the 5 yr plan). I was born to be a working woman not a stay at home mom. Which I've been for the last two years and it's driven me insane.

I have a grand total of three friends, all of which live over two hours away, that I never get to see or visit with. I've been cooped up in my house longer than any sane person should be. I've never even been to a spa but god knows I'd love to be pampered for once in my 26 years.

I love my three boys and my husband more than anything in the world. I have a seven year old and a five year old that are in school, and the three year old stays home. My five year old is a special needs child, he's doing very well but can still be a handful. The three year old is stll deperately clinging to the terrible twos as long as he can. Financially we are beyond strapped and are lucky to make it through the month. My husband works 12 hours a day 4 days on 4days off over an hour away from home and has the only vehicle.. He also only gets paid once a month so our months get fairly interesting sometimes.

So, whoever reads these andmakes the decisions I'd be more than greatful to get my a break. Thanks either way for listening to me.

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Permalink Reply by Jacqueline Etherige on July 27, 2009 at 12:43pm

well first let me start by saying I have nine kids who ages range from 16yrs.-8months . I have two sets of fratermal twins ten yer old boys and a boy &girl who are almost 3. All together I have seven boys and two girls 16 & 2 1/2 .Me and my husband both have very busy days he works as a bail agent and does bounty hunting as well . I stay at home to take care the kids and attend college online too. So between changing diapers and him aresting people we have very little time to go out .I think if we won we would have a reason to go out on a date.

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Permalink Reply by Holly Arjoonsingh on July 27, 2009 at 1:52pm

My husband and I have not lived near family in the past 7 years. To top that off, we have moved 4 times during that time, mostly within the 1st 5 years. My husband is currently in a very demanding role at work that requires him to work 12-18 hour days, plus many weekends. I have a small, home-based business that I have been running for the past 1 1/2 years that has been hit badly by this economy. We have been trying to go out but it's hard knowing who to trust to watch your children, especially since we have no family around. We are high school sweethearts who have been together 19 years, married for 12 years. With all the moving, having children in the process (we have 2 a 6 yo & an almost 4 yo), work and daily life, we've lost some of the magic and spark. This package would be a great opportunity for us to remember why we fell in love all those years ago!

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Permalink Reply by Heather Gonzalez on July 27, 2009 at 9:11pm

My husband and I have 4 kids total between us. Three are mine and my step son is the oldest at 12 years old. All of the kids are at different stages in their lives, and it is more stressful than ever! We have a boy and girl going through pueberty and have mood swings all the time. No matter what we do they are not satisifed. The 7 year old wants to be like the big kids, but also wants to be my "baby girl". Then there is the baby, 5 year old Antonio! He is like having 4 kids in 1. He is the comedian of the house, and keeps everyone on their feet. He also is very sensitive yet the tough guy at the same time. So there a re all my kids. Great, smart kids, but a handful as a bunch. I never seem to feel I spend enough time with them equally. Not to mention my husband got laid off last year, and I got hurt at work. We both took out loans and went back to college. About 2 months ago we opened our own business helping people of low-income with legal services. I feel like I work so much at home and at the office to give everyone else what they need, but never have time for myself and my husband. By the time we go to bed, we pass out. I think we really need this prize to go out for a few hours and enjoy ourselves. We say we are going to go, but something always comes up. Winning a prize makes it more fun. I know I would definitly go that day if we won!

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Permalink Reply by sandra kao on July 28, 2009 at 6:28am

we desparately need a date night because we haven't had a good chance to reconnect since our second child was born. it would be nice to at least go out to dinner and a movie or something where we are not worried about what time we need to be back by.

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Permalink Reply by debra taubel on July 28, 2009 at 12:18pm

the last movie we went to was 5 summers ago, and our daughter was born a month later. we've had an hour or two alone for a birthday dinner, but that's it. we're both white collar professionals who work more than we should, and we can't nap when our kids are napping, because we're trying to accomplish a task where the kids don't need to "help" us. it would be great to see a grown-up movie (or even a tv show) and go to a restaurant that didn't have a kids menu. thanks

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Permalink Reply by SANDY on July 28, 2009 at 7:45pm

tired and need a mom moment- everything is for the kids and thats fine and great but i want to feel pretty and have some me time where I sparkle for the husband

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Permalink Reply by Georgia on July 29, 2009 at 3:08am

I desperatly miss my hubby, we have not been on a date for over 6 years, and it is so very much needed just us, and no kids or grandkids, life just has been very busy and we have been through alot the past 3 years , our house burned down , and i have been fighting alot of illness and right now we have a calm but dont have two dimes to rub together, so a date for us would be like hitting the lottery and it would be deeply appreciated , have a gorgeous day ladies

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Permalink Reply by brandy w on July 29, 2009 at 11:52am

My hubby and I desperately need a date. We hardly even get to be alone anymore. we have 3 kids under the age of 5, and don't have any friends or family nearby to watch them. We have not been on a actual date in 4 yrs. it's very stressful and my marriage has been on th rocks because of it. It would be nice to get away from the kids for a while. plus we never have the money to do it. my hubby goes to school everyday, comes home and studys goes to bed. so we don't really have any romantic time. we absolutely need this date package to bring us closer and maybe put our marriage back on track

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Permalink Reply by Cathy McCaughan on July 29, 2009 at 1:09pm

We have five children in five different schools. I can't even remember the last time my husband and I went anywhere without several of the children along to make sure that the conversation stays on important topics like Barbies and video games. Even when we're at home, we are never alone. We have to lock ourselves in the bathroom after midnight (when the 18-y-o goes to bed) but before 2 a.m. (when the 4-y-o crawls in our bed for the night), just to get ten minutes of "adult" time. I love my husband, but I also LIKE him. I miss spending time holding hands and talking without interruptions. We need a date!

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Permalink Reply by Brenda Blake Hart on July 31, 2009 at 7:25pm

oh please let me and my husband have a night out alone , with no 3yr. old, no 13 yr.old, no older brother, no mother in law. My husband always takes the back seat in line, and I am not even in the line. We are nodding and smiling at each other from the distance, over many heads and voices all calling for help and saying "I need this, do that, where are you ETC ETC.
We haven't had a date in 3 years. We all work and are very tired. ON the weekends is more work. My husband is very dispondent and getting depressed and I am just feeling hopeless and incabable of making anyone happy. My husband and I NEED REJUVINATION!!!

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Permalink Reply by Destiny Gonzalez on August 1, 2009 at 11:30am

My husband and I haven't had a REAL date in a long time. We have the time, but not the money. And it's REALLY hard to find a babysitter, and when we do get a babysitter we wind up staying home with a rented movie and frozen, (maybe) sometimes delivered pizza. Which is nice and relaxing, but I miss getting gussied up, and him wearing clothes other than camo pants and a band-t. lol

I'm pretty sure there are other people more deserving to win this, and I'll be happy if they win.

Just thought that I would try it anyway.

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