LOSS BABY AT 4 MONTHS SAD!!!!

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Permalink Reply by Mags on March 16, 2009 at 10:00pm

I am so sorry for your loss...

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Permalink Reply by LEE BABY BOY on March 16, 2009 at 10:16pm

Mags said:

I am so sorry for your loss...

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Permalink Reply by Bridget on March 17, 2009 at 12:05am

I am sorry for your loss

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Permalink Reply by Debby on March 17, 2009 at 3:25pm

Chasity,

Take all the time you need to grieve. Overcoming a loss like this is so hard. You will always remember the feelings and if you attempt to have more, you'll be a little more nervous it's all normal. I too have delivered way too early. It's often something that went wrong and couldn't have been prevented. The best thing now is share your love for him by making yourself as healthy as can be. Dedicate your life to carrying him in your heart, letting his spirit grow with yours as you begin to deal with your grief.

There are grief counselors attached to most funeral homes, you could see if you can find a support group at the local hospital or Neo Natal unit as well. They will help.

Your angel will always be with you,
Debby
mom to 3 boys 20, 8 and 5 but also mom to 9 angels

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Permalink Reply by LEE BABY BOY on March 19, 2009 at 5:35pm

THANKS...DEBBY!!!
I GUESS I HAVENT BEEN THINKING STRAIGHT THESE LAST 2 MONTHS AND TALKING TO OTHERS DO HELP. I HAVE SHELTERED MYSELF IN THE HOUSE HOPING ALL THE PAIN WILL SOON SUBSIDE BUT OF COURSE THATS NOT HELPING MAYBE A SUPPORT GROUP WILL HELP? I HAVE SPOKEN WITH THE HOSPITAL SINCE BUT... WHEN THEY CALLED BACK AGAIN I REALLY DIDNT WANT TO TALK AGAIN. WHY?? I DONT KNOW... I JUST GO IN AND OUT AT TIMES,MY FEELINGS ARE GOING CRAZY...

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Permalink Reply by Debby on March 20, 2009 at 10:09am

Your feelings are going to go crazy. You've sustained a horrible loss and well your body knows it's too soon to have post partum symptoms so there is an internal hormonal war going on. This will take time to get over.

Some of the things I did was go ahead and lose the "baby weight" by exercise. This releases Serotonin in your brain which is a feel good hormone that can help with depression or lack of sunshine blues even.

I started a non baby related project, a quilt for my bed, some clothes, decorations for the house.

I also avoided my sister in laws because they were all having babies at that time. They didn't understand how I couldn't share their joy. Sometimes you just need a break.

I also wrote a journal specifically for the child I lost, I packed it away with the things I had for him when I was ready to move on but until then, I collected pictures of things I would be buying, things I wish they had thought of when I was having other babies. I prepared myself with wish lists in this book too. Things I knew I would do the next time that I didn't get to do this time.

You can do these things in time. It can take a couple of years. My stillbirth was April 1997 and it was March, 1998 before I thought about having another baby and 2000 before it finally happened.

LEE BABY BOY said:

THANKS...DEBBY!!!
I GUESS I HAVENT BEEN THINKING STRAIGHT THESE LAST 2 MONTHS AND TALKING TO OTHERS DO HELP. I HAVE SHELTERED MYSELF IN THE HOUSE HOPING ALL THE PAIN WILL SOON SUBSIDE BUT OF COURSE THATS NOT HELPING MAYBE A SUPPORT GROUP WILL HELP? I HAVE SPOKEN WITH THE HOSPITAL SINCE BUT... WHEN THEY CALLED BACK AGAIN I REALLY DIDNT WANT TO TALK AGAIN. WHY?? I DONT KNOW... I JUST GO IN AND OUT AT TIMES,MY FEELINGS ARE GOING CRAZY...

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Permalink Reply by LEE BABY BOY on March 21, 2009 at 5:14pm

HI!! DEBBIE
I KNOW YOUR RIGHT ABOUT FINDING THINGS TO DO THAT RELIEVES SOME OF THE PAIN.. AND I HAVE STARTED DOING THAT BUT...IT SEEMS LIKE IM IN A ZONE OF SOME KIND THAT I CANT GET OUT OF. I FEEL FINE AT FIRST THEN I FEEL LIKE A DARK CLOUD COVERS ME. I DO HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL OTHER CHILDREN A BOY 16 AND A GIRL 10 AND THEY KEEP ME GOING BUT.. I THINK THEY FEEL MY PAIN AT TIMES AND IT HURTS YTOU KNOW THEN I TRY TO PRETEND AND THAT HURTS I DONT KNOW...LIKE YOU SAID AND I BELIEVE IN TIME IT SHOULD GET BETTER...P.S. SORRY ABOUT YOUR LOSTS I KNOW THE LORD BLESS US TO BE ABLE TO TALK.AND I THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME...

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Permalink Reply by debby on October 12, 2009 at 12:43am

Really It is very sad experience to tolerate the loss of baby. Mothers always have a lot of love for their babies. Please relax yourself now for the sake of your health and try to see ahead. May God give you another baby to enlighten your life. sympathy sayings

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Permalink Reply by juanita lynn click "Robin" on October 31, 2009 at 9:58am

I am very sorry about the lose of your child .Just remember God had a good reason for takeing your son he is in heaven now and I know it would be so hard to understand why me God wants you to turn to him and no one else only him.Then you will know why he took your child because he will let you know in some way or another.There is always a reason I know I have lost my Husband,Nephew and a month after my Nephew my mom died and a year later my daddy left me.He had face cancer he didn,t have a face when he died,I feel he paid for his sins here on earth.Ihurt so bad thinking about them all but I would not bring them back to this sinful world for nothing because they are better off than me. LOVE YOU AND JUST REMEMBER THERE HAD TO BE A REASON.LEAN ON THE LORD HE WILL HELP YOU MAKE IT I PROMISE.

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Permalink Reply by EDWINA BAKER on November 10, 2009 at 2:37pm

I am sorry for your loss , take the time to over come the loss,and over time it you will heal, i hope has ime goes on you will have a very speacial angel with you always, i know my little angel is always with me everyday . you take care of yourself.

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Permalink Reply by Sara Broers on November 10, 2009 at 7:23pm

I am sorry for your loss. There is a reason for everything, and only God knows why. Your little angel is safe in the arms of Jesus.

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Permalink Reply by Bridgette Aghoghovwia on November 11, 2009 at 8:16pm

II am real sorry for your loss, in 2007 I lost my baby at 3 months old, so I understand your pain, but remain strong. I prayed and remained steadfast. Not long after that I got pregnant with twins (naturally). I had a good pregnancy and a great birth. My girls are now 4 and half months old, I'll have to post their pictures soon. I know it seems tough now but don't give up.

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