Marital Bliss or Bust?!

Talk about depressing! A recent survey conducted by AOL and Woman’s Day Magazine reports that most women are less than thrilled with their marriage. A sampling of 35,000 women surveyed on the state of their marriage had this to say:

· 52% of women say they have no/a dull sex life

· 72% have considered leaving their husbands

· 57% regret marrying their husband

· 79% want sex more often. (Only 19% call their sex life satisfying.)

· 27% think their marriages are not successful

· 52% say their husband is not their soul mate

· 41% said they don’t have date night

What do you say? Is your marriage bliss or a bust?

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Permalink Reply by Christina Montoya Fiedler on June 16, 2009 at 12:55pm

I'd be interested in the demographics of this survey. Maybe it would shed some more light on the subject. Momlogic! What about an interview with the folks who took the survey?

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Permalink Reply by Kim Moffitt on June 16, 2009 at 5:20pm

My ,marriage is bliss because of the basis of it. The friendship...respect..and love we share...nothing is ever total bliss..we have ups and downs ..but the ups make the downs easier and we share in the load of life's journey together...Sounds mooshy but it is true!

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Permalink Reply by Win It Bot on June 16, 2009 at 5:21pm

it's not mushy. it's exactly how i feel!

Kim Moffitt said:

My ,marriage is bliss because of the basis of it. The friendship...respect..and love we share...nothing is ever total bliss..we have ups and downs ..but the ups make the downs easier and we share in the load of life's journey together...Sounds mooshy but it is true!

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Permalink Reply by Q and M's Mom on June 16, 2009 at 5:31pm

I agree, friendship must come first. There are some days when that's all you have to stand on with the kids running around.

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Permalink Reply by Christie on June 16, 2009 at 5:48pm

This caught my eye because I caught just a little clip of something on this same subject on the Today show this morning. I am reading this book by an author named Dr. Juliana Slattery. She talks about intimacy in marriage and that is what so many are searching for...real intimacy. She shared something that I thought was SO TRUE. It's been a while since I read it so I don't want to misquote but here was what I took away from it. Basically the media promotes this openness about sex. Did you see the ad for jeans that is creating controversy? It was in the news this morning...don't know the company so it doesn't seem that their ad campaign worked on me. It was very explicit and tacky. There's reality TV where it's all just put out there. Movies can be just ridiculous. I mean, who wants to see that??? Then, there are these discussions about sexual matters and details of all that on "news" shows, etc. Basically, Dr. Slattery talks about TRUE intimacy being something special between a man and a wife. Our culture really fights against intimacy. She talks about things that hurt intimacy between a husband and wife in very simple terms. When there is too much information coming in OR going out of that relationship, intimacy suffers. Info coming in would be things like pornography, movies, affairs, crazy conversations on the "news"/talk shows that cover details on this kind of stuff, things you hear from others...maybe from friends or on a site like this...basically things that AREN'T my business can hurt the intimacy between me and my husband. Then, true intimacy and that "specialness" of marriage can be hurt when we share too much, too...if intimate info goes OUT of my marriage it makes the intimacy disappear. For instance, if I share private things about my marriage with a friend or my sister, that can hurt the intimacy with my husband.

I think it really made sense! My answer to the question: Marriage is super tough sometimes, but SO worth it. I love my husband more now than when we married almost a decade ago!! :)

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Permalink Reply by Baba on June 16, 2009 at 5:49pm

Total Bliss even after 37 years of marriage.

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Permalink Reply by Val Pearson on June 16, 2009 at 5:49pm

I can believe the statistics

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Permalink Reply by debram on June 16, 2009 at 6:02pm

My best friend - of course there are misunderstandings but overall bliss to have such a great companion!

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Permalink Reply by Tamara Bennington on June 16, 2009 at 6:18pm

I will never be climbing that tree again.

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Permalink Reply by Teri on June 16, 2009 at 6:20pm

BUST. I cant really recall a time of bliss. who really needs it. Its good for health benefits. LOL....We just had our 18yrs together/15yrs of marriage on June 15, 2009. Big deal. We have never seen eye to eye really. Its amazing we are still together. We had lots of ups and downs, wars, etc etc but somehow it seems to work itself out. Our 2 daughters both know that mom and dad had to work hard to get where they are at. They know FROM ME that our relationship IS NOT how it is suppose to be. We still have lots more to come too. Oh by the way I did the AOL survey on this. hehe. I am a survey freak I get about 50-100 a day from lots of different companies.
There is No such Thing as a perfectly Blissful marriage I dont care who who are. Not even my grandparents who were very family orientated, did love each other happily still had issues. One can be blind if they think it is perfect. I have seen those people close to my heart get hurt severely because they thought it was blissful. YIKES.

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Permalink Reply by Lipika Frith on June 16, 2009 at 6:36pm

It IS true! We can spend days together without anyone else, or days apart doing our own thing. His friendship makes life easy.

Kim Moffitt said:

My ,marriage is bliss because of the basis of it. The friendship...respect..and love we share...nothing is ever total bliss..we have ups and downs ..but the ups make the downs easier and we share in the load of life's journey together...Sounds mooshy but it is true!