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OUTRAGED BY OUR "PRO-CHOICE" STORY TODAY? WE DON'T BLAME YOU.

Today, Guest blogger Gina shared wrote about how she has little sympathy for pro-choicers when they miscarry: "Advocate all you want, but don't come crying to me when your hypocrisy hits you like a ton of bricks. If you are going to defend the right to abort babies, you don't have the right to be upset when yours dies."

While we believe everyone is entitled to their opinion we wonder if Gina's POV, is too damaging and offensive. Many of the staffers here are saddened and outraged by this story. One reader said it was enough for her to keep from coming back.

What do you think?

Tags: abortion, blogger, gina, guest, logic, mom, pro-choice

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I'm not for abortion. I won't ever be. But my heart goes out to any women who has miscarried. Having compassion for the unborn doesn't mean we can't have compassion for those who disagree with us -- especially in their most painful times.
I think Gina's post is RIDICULOUS. There is a huge difference between a fetus/cluster of cells/baby you DO want and one you don't - and to equate the two is absolutely idiotic. You CAN be pro choice and still be broken hearted about losing and early term pregnancy. Get a life Gina!
I really had a hard time with this story. Miscarrying has nothing to do with a woman's right to choose. No one chooses to suffer that tragedy and I think this blogger is just plain mean and frankly, nuts.
I don't think my opinion about the content of this item matters as much as I defend to the death the right for Gina to speak out. For the record, I wholeheartedly disagree with her, am strongly pro choice and honestly find her comments truly sad. Having said that -- momlogic is a forum for opinions, popular and unpopular. As women and mothers we have been taught to keep our mouths shut, that our opinion (no matter how disagreeable) is not valid. This is a place where it IS valid and accepted. A place for concious debate and respectful discourse. Just because one woman has this opinion on the site, does not mean she speaks for ALL women. If you think that-- then you don't get what ML is all about. Opposing viewpoints will be published in the next few days, again providing a platform for commentary. Gina, I absolutely disagree with you, but I value your voice in the tapestry of voices that make up this site.
It's so interesting to me how the reason we live in America is for the freedom it affords us, including the freedom of speech...and yet we can all get so outraged and riled up over someone with a controversial opinion. I have to admit, I was pretty shocked by this point of view...and yet...isn't it our scope of opinions as moms that makes life interesting?
After reading the Gina's opinion and the comments posted, I felt compelled to comment. So, let me start by saying WOW. My heart goes out to the woman that feels they have no choice in keeping an unborn child and because I am never in a position to judge her, I am pro choice.

I am confused at how someone who is pro life can also be so cold towards miscarriages (whether due to an abortion or natural causes). Either way, the situation is for that mom/woman to choose what is best for her.

I am also bothered by how society and women take the position of being Pro Life BUT what about PRO LIVING??? What happens when you have a baby and you can't find health care to save your life (and the baby for that matter)? What happens when, even though you have a job, a degree, you still can't afford the expense of child/day/after care, groceries (organic is SO expensive) and all that encompasses motherhood. What happens when you don't have a support group and your self esteem (i.e. depression) is sacrificed?

I will never judge someone that makes the choice to have an abortion. President Obama said to best... it is a spiritual and emotional ordeal that must be made by that woman and her spiritual adviser etc.

I love and appreciate all of the opinions and hope that we will respect all life and the choice that is after all our right.
Check out Talitha from mom logic's rebuttal... It's very well put and very heart felt.
http://community.momlogic.com/profiles/blogs/my-miscarriage-is-none...
Wow. While I believe Gina has a right to voice her opinion, it saddens and baffles me that anyone who claims to believe in the "right-to-life" is so quick to harm, wish harm or appluad the pain of miscarraige to those who disagree with them.
I personally believe that most people do not WANT to get abortions, but their right to choose the option if need be is what they want to protect, and what they fight for.
I am sure that Momlogic didn't intent to turn this into a debate on prolife vs. prochoice, but I have to comment on Rhea's thoughtful post below. My mom gave birth to her first child at 15, her second at 18, and my conception was in the worst of times and under the worst of circumstances. So I'm grateful that she gave me life. I won't take the space here, but I will say that my life has been both hard, but very, very rich. I have lived fully. My story is here.

Rhea Brown said:
I am also bothered by how society and women take the position of being Pro Life BUT what about PRO LIVING??? What happens when you have a baby and you can't find health care to save your life (and the baby for that matter)? What happens when, even though you have a job, a degree, you still can't afford the expense of child/day/after care, groceries (organic is SO expensive) and all that encompasses motherhood. What happens when you don't have a support group and your self esteem (i.e. depression) is sacrificed?

I added only a partial link. I'm sorry. Click here, if you wish.
I hate to get all Mary Poppins here, but a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down.
Open forums like this one call for a little grace and diplomacy. Cramming an opinion - while we're all entitled to one - down someone's throat doesn't mean it's going to stick. if you want people listen, show a little kindness...to all of us.
I'm not shocked. The "pro life" activists demonize women who have abortions. They are irresponsible unwed women who shouldn't be allowed to have sex in the first place. And when they DO have sex and end up pregnant, they obviously did it because they didn't use birth control. They should just "step up to the plate" and have the child regardless of circumstances. Regardless of whether they have been brutally raped by their step father. Regardless of whether the mother has mental or physical health issues that make pregnancy dangerous. Regardless of whether the baby is viable or horribly disabled. Regardless of whether the woman is able to take care of the child.

Extremists advocate attacking women outside of clinics, calling them baby killers, and even coercing women into not having an abortion by pretending to be a clinic and delaying the woman's abortion until the woman can no longer seek an abortion legally or can no longer afford it.

Why should we be surprised that these people don't really care about women when they have a miscarriage? Honestly, I think that a lot of pro-lifers are happy at the idea. I've heard people say that women should not be allowed to have children if they have an abortion. Forget the fact that they believe that life begins at conception, I guess if God intervenes and kills the fetus it's all fine and dandy.

Doesn't Gina realize that you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar? Comforting a pro-choice woman in her miscarriage and talking about how her child was ABSOLUTELY a baby might win more people over to the pro-life side than saying that the woman has no right to grieve the child that she wanted, that she planned for, and that she loved.

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