OUTRAGED BY OUR "PRO-CHOICE" STORY TODAY? WE DON'T BLAME YOU.

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Permalink Reply by T. Suzanne Eller on February 4, 2009 at 12:43pm

I'm not for abortion. I won't ever be. But my heart goes out to any women who has miscarried. Having compassion for the unborn doesn't mean we can't have compassion for those who disagree with us -- especially in their most painful times.

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Permalink Reply by momlogic's Radical Mommy on February 4, 2009 at 3:02pm

I think Gina's post is RIDICULOUS. There is a huge difference between a fetus/cluster of cells/baby you DO want and one you don't - and to equate the two is absolutely idiotic. You CAN be pro choice and still be broken hearted about losing and early term pregnancy. Get a life Gina!

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Permalink Reply by Jenny on February 4, 2009 at 3:03pm

I really had a hard time with this story. Miscarrying has nothing to do with a woman's right to choose. No one chooses to suffer that tragedy and I think this blogger is just plain mean and frankly, nuts.

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Permalink Reply by glamourous1 on February 4, 2009 at 3:18pm

I don't think my opinion about the content of this item matters as much as I defend to the death the right for Gina to speak out. For the record, I wholeheartedly disagree with her, am strongly pro choice and honestly find her comments truly sad. Having said that -- momlogic is a forum for opinions, popular and unpopular. As women and mothers we have been taught to keep our mouths shut, that our opinion (no matter how disagreeable) is not valid. This is a place where it IS valid and accepted. A place for concious debate and respectful discourse. Just because one woman has this opinion on the site, does not mean she speaks for ALL women. If you think that-- then you don't get what ML is all about. Opposing viewpoints will be published in the next few days, again providing a platform for commentary. Gina, I absolutely disagree with you, but I value your voice in the tapestry of voices that make up this site.

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Marino on February 4, 2009 at 9:25pm

regardless for ones choice i believe when one has chosen to carry full term and they miscarry it is not right to judge or sympathize or not. i know people who due to life circumstances and/or way they became pregnant chose o abort. i don't mind on the matter but it is their choice and when they decided to have a baby i was happy and would never judge them. making a comment like that is hypocritical in its self someone who seems to be profile and bathes in the failure of another in this scene has no compassion for life and i hate to say it but karma is a ....you know what. mind you business and learn to love and my compassionate if not don't call others hypocrites when your one yourself.. there is so much more id like to say but i don't feel it is necessary to stoop to the same level as this individual.
im disgusted and feel like this is a place for women to help and have their opinions but not to judge and or impose personal beliefs

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Permalink Reply by MamaBates on February 5, 2009 at 8:53am

It's so interesting to me how the reason we live in America is for the freedom it affords us, including the freedom of speech...and yet we can all get so outraged and riled up over someone with a controversial opinion. I have to admit, I was pretty shocked by this point of view...and yet...isn't it our scope of opinions as moms that makes life interesting?

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Permalink Reply by Rhea Brown on February 5, 2009 at 9:19am

After reading the Gina's opinion and the comments posted, I felt compelled to comment. So, let me start by saying WOW. My heart goes out to the woman that feels they have no choice in keeping an unborn child and because I am never in a position to judge her, I am pro choice.

I am confused at how someone who is pro life can also be so cold towards miscarriages (whether due to an abortion or natural causes). Either way, the situation is for that mom/woman to choose what is best for her.

I am also bothered by how society and women take the position of being Pro Life BUT what about PRO LIVING??? What happens when you have a baby and you can't find health care to save your life (and the baby for that matter)? What happens when, even though you have a job, a degree, you still can't afford the expense of child/day/after care, groceries (organic is SO expensive) and all that encompasses motherhood. What happens when you don't have a support group and your self esteem (i.e. depression) is sacrificed?

I will never judge someone that makes the choice to have an abortion. President Obama said to best... it is a spiritual and emotional ordeal that must be made by that woman and her spiritual adviser etc.

I love and appreciate all of the opinions and hope that we will respect all life and the choice that is after all our right.

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Permalink Reply by Jenny on February 5, 2009 at 12:27pm

Check out Talitha from mom logic's rebuttal... It's very well put and very heart felt.
http://community.momlogic.com/profiles/blogs/my-miscarriage-is-none...

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Permalink Reply by Jessica on February 5, 2009 at 1:05pm

Wow. While I believe Gina has a right to voice her opinion, it saddens and baffles me that anyone who claims to believe in the "right-to-life" is so quick to harm, wish harm or appluad the pain of miscarraige to those who disagree with them.
I personally believe that most people do not WANT to get abortions, but their right to choose the option if need be is what they want to protect, and what they fight for.

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Permalink Reply by T. Suzanne Eller on February 5, 2009 at 1:23pm

I am sure that Momlogic didn't intent to turn this into a debate on prolife vs. prochoice, but I have to comment on Rhea's thoughtful post below. My mom gave birth to her first child at 15, her second at 18, and my conception was in the worst of times and under the worst of circumstances. So I'm grateful that she gave me life. I won't take the space here, but I will say that my life has been both hard, but very, very rich. I have lived fully. My story is here.

Rhea Brown said:

I am also bothered by how society and women take the position of being Pro Life BUT what about PRO LIVING??? What happens when you have a baby and you can't find health care to save your life (and the baby for that matter)? What happens when, even though you have a job, a degree, you still can't afford the expense of child/day/after care, groceries (organic is SO expensive) and all that encompasses motherhood. What happens when you don't have a support group and your self esteem (i.e. depression) is sacrificed?

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Permalink Reply by T. Suzanne Eller on February 5, 2009 at 1:26pm

I added only a partial link. I'm sorry. Click here, if you wish.

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Permalink Reply by sugar mama on February 5, 2009 at 1:32pm

I hate to get all Mary Poppins here, but a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down.
Open forums like this one call for a little grace and diplomacy. Cramming an opinion - while we're all entitled to one - down someone's throat doesn't mean it's going to stick. if you want people listen, show a little kindness...to all of us.

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