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Permalink Reply by EDWINA BAKER on November 10, 2009 at 2:05pm

I would not know how to keep a teenage daughter focus from boys, i can rember that when I was a teenager i was not allowed to get involed with boys,but were friends with them.plus guys thought of me has one part of the group, it was not untill I got older that boys started looking out me has a girl in that way.

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Permalink Reply by Lajeania allums on November 11, 2009 at 2:59pm

keep her busy occupy time with something at church home or school

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Permalink Reply by Heidi Schneider on November 13, 2009 at 9:35am

Lock her up! :) I am fortunate thus far that my teen step daughter isn't that interested in boys HOWEVER.. I DO have a 15 year old son VERY interested in girls! There are times where I would like to take the cell phone and throw it into the garbage can! Even his principal at school told me that he has a HUGE following of girls < sigh >

I am fortunate that he and I have the type of relationship that he can tell me anything, and MOST of the time I don't freak out :) This following seems to be made up of just friends. This is the age where our teens social life IS their life! Being socially accepted, being popular. I don't mind him hanging around with girls. He has had a few girlfriends and of course, they don't last that long. I try not to be over bearing when he wants to "hangout" with these girls. Of course, we have a no bedroom policy, and parents need to be home. We've also talked about the "birds and the bees" and he knows that sex isn't apart of being socailly accepted. So far, so good!

I guess, as long as she doesn't lose her focus on her school work, I say let her experience it. It's part of their growing up :)

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Permalink Reply by T Taylor on November 13, 2009 at 10:00am

I agree with Lajeania, keep them busy...

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Permalink Reply by Barbara D on November 16, 2009 at 4:26pm

This is something that I am starting to worry about! I have a 13yr old daughter and she says she's not interested, but I cannot be certain, so I am a little worried too, I hope someone out there has some good tips! :)

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Permalink Reply by Peggy Gorman on November 18, 2009 at 11:28am

Most girls will and are interested in boys. Its natural and if we talk about boys with our girls ,answer their questions and keep an open dialog with them ,its easier. Girls love to talk about boys and its ok. I allowed the talk but we talked about cooking and school ,we shopped went and did different things. The more we make boys a taboo subject the girls want to know more. Also if your daughter talks to you ,you may hear things you didn't expect. Just listen! Don't judge.

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Permalink Reply by Cassandra Williams on November 19, 2009 at 1:27pm

The harder you try the worse it will be. Just make sure you have THE TALK with her alot. she may or may not want to but it will make you feel better knowing that she knows all the fact. make sure she knows she can always talk to you no matter what. and make sure she knows what comes before boys and dating like school and family.

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Permalink Reply by Nicole on November 20, 2009 at 3:34pm

I have a 14yo boy and a 12yo girl. Both are very involved in sports. They have a lesson or practice 4 days a week then games on the weekends. After practice, they come home, eat dinner, do homework, watch a little tv and then go to bed. There's not a lot of down time to be bored, in their room, texting/chatting away.
Find an activity (sports, music, theater, etc) and get her involved.
I always say a tired dog is a good dog... same with my kids. But at times, the dogs are better trained.


Like others have said, keep an open dialogue, listen w/o judging, iow, don't react to whatever she's telling you. Talk, talk, and more talk. If you haven't already talked about sex, you need to start now. Regardless of what kids say, they actually know very little.
Dr. Laura Berman has a great notebook for talking to our children about our bodies, sex, etc... from very young to teens. http://tinyurl.com/sexnotebook

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Permalink Reply by Debbie G on November 25, 2009 at 10:37am

Good question, you don't. I think the problem for me right now, I have a 16 year old girl soon to be 17, is how she deals with a recent break up. And, the stupid cell phone. I can track her use, but don't know who the numbers belong to. Also, what she tells me and her friends are at times different. I think she wants to be "cool", whatever that is these days, with her friends, but she tells me pretty much everything. I guess as long as the communication stays open that's the best you can do. And boys will always be a part of teen girls' lives, just keep the rules in place so those mistakes that can be made aren't.

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