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On Oprah, a sex expert suggested we buy our daughters vibrators. Is this a good idea ... or too much information?

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I saw that episode and couldn't believe it. I have talked to my 16 year old daughter about sex but never even thought about talking about masterbation, showing her how to masterbate, nonetheless buy a vibrator for her. I think that is going above and beyond what a parent is for.
Yes I definitely would. I think it's important that she knows that sex is for pleasure not for popularity. I also think that if she knows the pleasure she is able to have (with a vibrator) she might not settle for the lame thrustings of some teen boy.
I'm a big subscriber to the "if she asks, then I will tell" philosophy. She would absolutely cringe if I went anywhere NEAR this subject with her. But not that there's anything wrong with that.
I really don't know if I would BUY it for her, but I would certainly bring up the topic of vibrators and self-pleasure. As we say in the article, my daughter can't get preg from a vibrator, nor can she catch any STDs from one. A vibrator won't dump her when she won't "go all the way."

I'll take a vibrator over a boyfriend for her any day of the week!
TMI! I can't image receiving one let alone giving one in that fashion!
I'm curious if one would negate the other.

Julie said:
I really don't know if I would BUY it for her, but I would certainly bring up the topic of vibrators and self-pleasure. As we say in the article, my daughter can't get preg from a vibrator, nor can she catch any STDs from one. A vibrator won't dump her when she won't "go all the way."

I'll take a vibrator over a boyfriend for her any day of the week!
Um, no. While I will teach my daughter about SAFE sex, I can't even begin to think about giving her a vibrator. That is her for to explore if she wishes. I won't be crossing that line!
You've got to be kidding, right!? We might as well be telling them premarrital sex is ok because after all we just gave them a sex toy, so we are okaying sex, right???? I think NOT!!!!!!
Too much information. Should we explain about the G spot too? C'mon. It's enough to tell your daughter her needs can be met through masturbation, we don't need to give her tips on how to do it though.
I didn' see the show but I have been selling adult toys for a long time, I realize that some people look at adult toys as OMG! I would never! ( that's just because they haven't tried them!) I have a daughter and a son who are now young adults, they have always been able to talk to me about anything (I've been a single parent since they were little) Curiosity is the reason many young children and teens experiment. Being embarassed, afraid or unable to talk to their parents about sex and the other issues related to it doesn't leave them with many options but to listen to their peers. For years I've had women buying 1st vibes for their young daughters and it has actually worked out well, instead of making them more sexually active earlier it has the opposite effect of letting them explore their bodies and satisfying any urges they may be feeling alleviating the need to turn to the first boy that comes along and tries to sweet talk them into doing things they really aren't ready for but are naturally curious about. Open, honest comminication is such an important thing with our children. Mine are happy well adjusted young adults 22 & 28 who have never been players or serial daters, their smart about their bodies, waited to have sex until they were ready and love the fact that our openess helped them make wise decisions. If you have any personal questions please feel free to contact me.or you can check out my website,
http://candiessecret.com
I just read the other comments and can understand your points of view, but in this day when kids are so savvy about everything open communication about even the most uncomfortable subjects is important, Feeling like your buying her pleasure or condoning pre-marital sex is certainly one way to look at it and know matter how much self worth she has, she will still be vulnerable to peer pressure and curiosity. I'm not saying to run out and buy your daughter a vibe but it's important hot to stick our heads in the sand and think that just because we don;t talk about it they aren't trying it out, or talking among friends.. who by the way don't know anything more than she does.
Oh no...thank God I don't have girls.

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