WOULD YOU PRESS CHARGES AGAINST YOUR OWN KID?

Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by Kythwilde on February 7, 2009 at 12:52pm

Oh please. My grandma (who was by all rights and stuff, basically my mom" took my brother to the local Police Station when he was six for stealing a pack of wrigley's from the 7-11 down the street. She then had her cop-friend lock up my brother for about 30 minutes (she knew the cops from earlier bouts with my grandfather) and asked him "Do you like it in there?" He was sobbing and said no, and then she said "well, this is where thieves go. are you a thief?" He said no. Kids need to learn a lesson and if was drinking and driving, he needs to learn a bigger lesson. It was the mom's decisicion and I support it because without this kind of "tough love" there would be another juvie on the streets, stealing YOUR car.

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ann on February 8, 2009 at 12:21pm

I think she did the right thing. Protecting him by not turning him in would not only be illegal, but would hinder his ability to understand that there are consequences for his actions and would inhibit his growth as a person. I am sure this was a very difficult choice for her, but I think she made the right choice.

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by MLIC on February 8, 2009 at 1:05pm

Wow...that's crazy but then again, if she feels she's got to go this far this kid must be a hard case. If she didn't love him she wouldn't be doing this either...if anyone has any similar stories please post them on: http://mylifeiscrap.com

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Miranda Lamb on February 9, 2009 at 10:57pm

I would absoultely press charges!!!! I worked with brain injured adults for 4 years, and 90% of them where there due to their own, or someone else drinking and driving!!!! I have zero tollerance for this!!!!

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Michelle on February 12, 2009 at 11:06am

it depends on the child, sometimes they need to be taught a rough lesson. some youths today are out of control. we need more parents who can raise their children that way.

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Billie Ginther on March 25, 2009 at 4:20pm

I would do what ever it took to make sure my child understood the concept of responsibility and consequences for our actions. Children must learn this. Look at the mess we are in because too many folks still have not gotten that message. Our first job is to love. Our second most important job is to nurture and teach our children how to grow into happy, responsible and caring adults. Sometimes, as painful as it is, actions speak louder than lecture.

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by RP Mom on March 25, 2009 at 9:03pm

I don't think she was too tough at all. Her son is very very lucky that he only crashed the car and did not kill himself or some innocent person. Some of the other comments below are correct, this Mom is liable. I agree with JackieMac that if he 16, drinking and stealing his parents car without a license, this is not a fluke. I give this Mom a big hug for having to do very very tough love. I don't think that this was easy for any Mom but maybe she had no choice. In a way she could be saving her son from destroying himself.

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Royal on March 26, 2009 at 7:00am

I wouldn't press charges at all, because that can harmfully hurt your child's future, unless there was no other way. But i feel that if you could get a police officer for some tough love and show them how serious something like this is, it can definitely be a life changing situation for a child.

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Shawnn on March 26, 2009 at 11:52am

Well, like many others, I pray that I've given my children some common sense and taught them not only right from wrong, but stupid from not stupid. That being said, if my son (here in a year or two) were to pull the same BS, I'd be requesting that the Police force did enforce the laws and press charges. If my kids are in a situation where they can prove to me that they were in the right, I will back them every time, and they know it. However, and they'll quote me on this, if they do something utterly stupid and inconsiderate and outright DANGEROUS...they are on their own, and they'd better not be calling me for bail. There are just way too many underage folks out there who think they are above the law. If the celebrity young ladies (such term is used loosely, because I really don't see any ladylike behavior out of them) such as Ms. Lohan & Ms. Spears had been prosecuted for not only driving under the influence but also MINOR under the influence, perhaps they wouldn't have spent as much time in the headlines and encouraged more young people to drink.

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by pmartinez on March 29, 2009 at 11:18am

i have three boys and i have always told them if u do a crime u will pay for it even if that means me turning u in. i will not put up with it. i have given everything i can to my kids so they have no excuse to go and stealing cars tagging robbing or anything... so if they ever decide to do this and i find out i will turn them in. i will not cover for my kids then they will think i can do anything momy and daddy will take care of it later on. nope not me. that goes for my daughter also. my kids r still small but u have to teach them now insted of later....

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Karen on March 29, 2009 at 11:21am

Oh this is so hard. I had to turn my son in for stealing from someone's car once. He ended up being sent to a "boy's school" for a year. He was 15 when it happened. It hurt like fire to my heart but I couldn't let him steal from people like that.

▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Vicki Hancock on March 29, 2009 at 11:23am

I think if she feels she is doing the right thing, that is what matters. Too many parents let their kids off or defend them when they get into trouble and then they end up in trouble over and over again. I may feel she didn't need to add the additional charges but I would bet he won't do it again. That is what matters in the end.

▶ Reply to This

▶ Reply to This

• First
• Previous
• Next
• Last