How do you deal with the loss of a loved one?

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Permalink Reply by Carla on May 6, 2009 at 12:18am

Surround yourself around others that loved them and remember they to have lost a loved one and always remember they will always be in your heart so they will ALWAYS be with you.

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Permalink Reply by Peggy Gorman on May 10, 2009 at 10:53am

I am dealing with a day by day. I lost my 2nd son March,21st and then my broken heart really broke ,heart attack.I have been around alot of people,lots of Dr's,nurses because of 2 hospital stays. I am trying to stay calm and busy.
It still doesn't seem real,I feel its a bad dream . I look at pictures and just to hear my sons voice I call his cell phone. When I hear his voice I feel he is still with me. I know in my heart they are together,my boys, Daniel and David. I have David home with me because we had him creamated. I will have him buried with his brother because I feel they should be together.
I have probate this week,wednesday,and just looking at the papers from the court ,its unreal.
They both had their lives in front of them,so much to look forward too,Dan was 27 and David 22
I miss them

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Permalink Reply by EmptyNester on May 10, 2009 at 11:02pm

Peggy, I can relate to the "unrealness" of it all, especially when they were so young. I don't think any parent expects to outlive their children even under the worst of circumstances....it's just unnatural. Even more so with two.

My nephew's passing was such a total shock to the whole family that we just had to lean on each other and talk about the good times, the funny times and how much he added to our lives in just the short time he was here. Since his funeral his older brother has received an officer's commission in the Marines, graduated from college and is about to get married next week. His little sister just played in a weekend basketball tournament out-of-town. Life goes on, even though at the time of their passing it seems as though the world has stopped and you can't go on.

Our greatest consolation has been the knowledge that his soul's where it should be...with the One who loves him most. And knowing that we haven't seen the last of him is tremendous comfort to me.

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Permalink Reply by nancy ann pitts on May 12, 2009 at 8:31am

i try to remember the good times we had together and try to remember they are in a better place

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Permalink Reply by Kate ~Mom to 2 Princesses~ on May 13, 2009 at 8:17am

Our family surrounds themselves and each other with everyone who was important in their life. I remember when my Grandpa died it seemed like he knew everyone because everyone he worked with came to the wake, his buddies were all there, family friends, everyone! it's the only way I have ever done it. And there is always wonderful food brought from these amazing people. A real nice way to show your support and let the family mourn and not worry about cooking.

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Permalink Reply by Cheryl on October 2, 2009 at 2:34pm

When I lost my step mom almost four years ago the way I got through it was taking things one day at a time. For a while it was one hour at a time. Now I am facing my dad passing. I will say I still miss her as much now as I did at first but it doesn't hurt as much.

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