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Comment by Mommy Dearest on November 24, 2009 at 12:13pm

Don't make ME Unfriend

"Unfriend" has been named the word of the year by the New Oxford American Dictionary, chosen from a list of finalists with a tech-savvy bent.

Unfriend was defined as a verb that means to remove someone as a "friend" on a social networking site such as Facebook.

"It has both currency and potential longevity," said Christine Lindberg, senior lexicographer for Oxford's U.S. dictionary program, in a statement.

"In the online social networking context, its meaning is understood, so its adoption as a modern verb form makes this an interesting choice for Word of the Year."

It is a lot easier said and done on facbook but how do you really unfriend in your heart? How do you divorce yourself from unhealth or toxic friendships?

Comment by Mommy Dearest on November 14, 2009 at 12:03pm

Need some ME Time?
A piece of essential wisdom about our lives is broadcast every time a plane takes off. No, it's not about your tray table. It's this: If the oxygen mask drops and you're traveling with small kids, put yours on first -- before you help them.

Too many women, single or married, childless or mothers, are endlessly fulfilling every obligation except the one to themselves. For your mental, physical, and psychological well-being, you sometimes just need to stop. Then you need to do something you want to do. You need to take some Me Time.

Like many things, Me Time is all the more wanted the rarer it gets. In their recent book, What Women Really Want, pollsters Celinda Lake and Kellyanne Conway discovered that women across all strata of society feel overwhelmed with the insatiable demands on them. When they asked what women wanted more of in their lives, the two most popular answers were "peace" and "time." They were talking about a sense of serenity and control over their lives. The women polled also said they would like more sleep, and that they battle the "guilt that creeps in whenever they take a break."

There aren't that many breaks, though. The Families and Work Institute (FWI) found that working mothers spend both more time at the job and more time with their kids than their counterparts did 25 years ago. Where are they finding that extra time? "It's coming from time for themselves," says Ellen Galinsky, FWI president.

Marianne Legato, a cardiologist, Health Advisory Board member, and author of Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget, can tell you why: "If you never have any time except reactive time -- things you must do for others -- you don't have a sense of control. You are interrupted all the time. Your brain has trouble resting even during sleep. Such chronic exhaustion increases the release of stress hormones, and your blood sugar rises." If this is your normal state, then the physical consequences increase your risk of diabetes, heart disease, and memory problems. If that's not enough to scare you into taking some time for yourself, consider this: The hormonal effects of always being on edge help deposit fat right around your waist.

There are more than physical benefits to getting off this treadmill. Taking a break will actually make you discharge your responsibilities better. Galinsky's surveys show that people who are happiest at work are those who take time for themselves. "If you shift your focus, you go back to the other areas of life with more energy," she says. "You're less stressed, more satisfied with life in general."

So what is Me Time? First, it can't be something you hate doing but feel you have to do. Take going to the gym, for instance: "Exercise is a really important tool for my sanity," says Alice D. Domar, PhD, a psychologist and author of Self-Nurture and Health's Ask Ali column. "But a lot of women use it as punishment for eating, or see it as an obligation." If that's you, then exercise doesn't count as Me Time.

For some women, it is a serving of quiet. Kim Renteria, a Houston glass artist, is a widow with three grown children. Every 5 weeks or so, she unplugs her phone. It's not that she doesn't enjoy her friends and family, but she knows she needs 48 hours of solitude for renewal. For many women, other women are the key to Me Time. Studies have shown that having a strong network of friends enhances people's satisfaction with life and even their health.

What is nourishing for one person can be a burden to someone else. If a book group doesn't appeal to you, maybe an art class does. Some women find that volunteer work provides a soul-enriching sense of accomplishment. But if you're someone who says yes to the constant requests for help then wonders what you were thinking, maybe what you need at this point in your life is to do less, period.

Maybe sometimes all you need is permission to do what you need to do to keep yourself sane. To breathe, and be happy. Think of this as your permission slip.

http://www.cnn.com/2006/HEALTH/09/15/me.time.health/index.html

Comment by Mommy Dearest on October 16, 2009 at 2:35pm

Google me this and Google me that...know the facts! What your children are viewing on your home computer or their PC, behind your backs! For the devil has fearlessly attacks...lours and attracts...sex and pornography, has the odds against the beloved, stacked...yes curiosity can kill the cat. So don't let your child's cyber life be a mystery, regularly check their Google history!

History can't delete it's self,
MD

Comment by basak on October 7, 2009 at 1:43pm

Thank you. What a nice "welcome" :)

Comment by Mommy Dearest on October 7, 2009 at 6:09am

Welcome to our newest member, Basak, happy to have ya!

Comment by basak on October 7, 2009 at 5:50am

Hi All,
You can add me to your list/ newsletter/ group
http://friendfeed.com/ellysion
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/basaktemel?ref=profile
http://twitter.com/btemel

Comment by Mommy Dearest on October 6, 2009 at 3:15pm

Think being a mother is hard? Try doing a decent job with a full camera crew under your feet 24/7. Some mothers have chosen to put their lives on display for the world to revere or condemn. How do you feel about the depiction of Motherhood in reality shows verses, real life? Over all, do you think moms are portrayed fairly in the media?

Comment by Mommy Dearest on August 31, 2009 at 3:17pm

Ladies let's love ourselves fit, in some small way today! Cook and eat healthier meals for you and the family, take the stairs instead of the elevator at work and try to get closer to those 10,000 steps a day. Or something as simple as drinking plenty of water, we are made up of 90% water, yah know! Let us together get to loving ourselves fits!

Strive for a healthier day!
--Mommy Dearest

Comment by Mommy Dearest on August 15, 2009 at 10:26pm

A BIG welcome to our newest member, Karen!

Comment by Mommy Dearest on July 23, 2009 at 11:49am

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