OK.... I have a question for all you mom of boys out there. What do you vase the consequence off of when your son gets supended? What he did to get suspended, or the plain fact that he knew better and broke a school rule?
See... to be very short and sweet.. my 13 yo got into an altercation on the weekend where another boy, in front of his mother, came at my son with a baseball bat and hit the bike my son was riding. That boys mother was watching and actually LAUGHED when her son attacked mine. Now, I was so furious I knew it'd be bad for me to go confront her so I let it go, planning to just send her the bill for the replacement parts.. So the following day at after school I spot My son and this boy fighting.. nothing major, a few slaps and my son walked away from it laughing.. so at that time I wasn't even aware of WHO the boy was. So anyway a few more days go by and I witness the mouth this other boy has on him and I'm thinkin he really does deserve his butt beat down.. So anyway one fine day this other boys mother comes up to my truck after school and starts screaming at my son! Actually telling him to get out of the truck so her son and him can fight.... I tell her she's nuts and suggesting criminal activity and believe me, I'm proud of myself for staying calm and not smacking her myself. (its apparent where this other boy gets his mouth from!!) So I drove away at that point.. well that night the boys FATHER literally hunts down our house... waiting until he spots me driving around and follows me home and goes on another rampage in my front yard!!!! He at one point steps into me like he was gonna *belly bump* me like I were another guy! Again... I stay calm (I'm still so proud of myself..I think it was seeing how out of control these other parents were that did it) and talk this guy down and actually end up making him feel ashamed for coming at me the way he did.
So here's my delima. I reported all this to the school principal because these people are crazy. Plain and simple. So now it took the principal two weeks to complete his investigation and now my son is suspended for 3 days because, to be frank, he did fight after school and thats against the rules. But.... that kid deserved it!!!! And I fully agree with the ethics.. and the other kid did swing first. So... now am I to be a good mother and give my son consequences for breaking school rules? Or do I just enjoy his company for the days he's suspended because I don't feel he should be suspended.
Just wanted to hear some other moms' feelings on it all... =)