In DIRE Need of a Date Night?

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Permalink Reply by Dani' on July 1, 2009 at 2:43pm

I need a date night because my kids are older, on eis almost 12 and one is almost 9, but they don't always get along.
A sitter would keep them from tearing each other apart while dh and I escape!

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Permalink Reply by Sandy on July 1, 2009 at 4:04pm

My fiancé and I could really use a date night because we haven’t had on in ages. At the beginning of the year he got full custody of his three girls; ages 3, 5, and 7. I have a daughter from a previous relationship so all in all we have four girls under the age of 8. I work full time (and normally average 5-10 hours OT a week) and he stays home with the kids. He’s the best stay at home dad ever! He does everything for and with them. By the time I get home from work I take over with the kids while he relaxes. Our custody schedules are set up in a way that doesn’t really leave any free time for us, we always have the kids. We went from being me, him, and my daughter to the six of us. When we do get a few hours by ourselves we don’t have the money to do anything, we don’t get any child support or aid from anywhere. Having a special date for just the two of us with no interruptions would be so amazing and we could really use the relaxation.

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Permalink Reply by colleen sullivan on July 1, 2009 at 7:15pm

I am a single mom and would just LOVE a night out!! I have a very hard time saying no to people who ask for my help (which seems to be frequently lately!) I enjoy helping others but I forget to take care of me sometimes as I am sure many of us can relate too! I would just love a night out to relax!

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Permalink Reply by Sam on July 2, 2009 at 8:18am

i haven't had a date nite in almost 4 year since i became pregos because i was mostly on bed-rest, then my son was born who was allergic to every thing even at one point vomiting blood( thank god he's good now)... then can came us sleeping family member housee had no where to stay thank god we have our own apartment now.Than came an accident my husband had which led in a case for a very longg time and then leg surgery which he might need a another one and between try to celebrating my sons birthday my own illness like getting checked for possible cancer since age 20 every three to six months. and just trying to live left .so yes i would love to win because i have even had a date on our anniversy or my birthday.

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Permalink Reply by shannon on July 2, 2009 at 1:02pm

debralu said:

My hubby and I have been dealing with our parents' health issues for the past year.

After being diagnosed with colon cancer (that had also spread to his liver) last Spring and going through chemotherapy, my father-in-law succumbed to cancer in late February of this year. We were with him, my step-mother-in-law and the hospice nurse when he passed away at his home.

My mother-in-law has been suffering from severe back pain due to a combination of scoliosis, arthritis and pinched spinal nerves. She (finally) agreed to have surgery and it had to be split into two surgeries one week apart due to blood loss during her first surgery. She's now on the mend and will be able to leave the hospital tomorrow.

My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a month ago and has since gone through two surgeries - one a partial mastectomy & one to remove 19 lymph nodes after cancer was found in one removed during the mastectomy. She will begin radiation treatments on July 6th.

My father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's two years ago and is now considered to be in the moderate stage of the disease. My mother has been unable to care for him because of her own health problems, so my sisters and I have been taking turns living with them to take care of our father and so that Mom can rest and recuperate.

We really could use a night out to focus on US for a little while.

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Permalink Reply by shannon on July 2, 2009 at 1:20pm

Hi mom logic! I am a new mom of a gorgeous baby girl named Marlee. Her father and I have been together now for almost 3 years and are master jugglers at finding time to spend with one another. The past three years have taken a tole on me as a woman and more importantly us as a couple. I just got done with my bachelors in Culinary management at Le Cordon Bleu cooking school. I spent 6 hours a night Monday through Friday at school and have graduated with a 3.5. I dedicated much of my time as the president of the Honor Society and volunteered at shelters, had bake sales for the homeless and cooked for the hungry at a place called St. Vincent De Paul here in Arizona during the summer and while pregnant. I just finished my externship in a restaurant and hardly get any time with just daddy due to our opposite schedules. He works days and I work nights so time for us is a never thing when it comes to going out. We have been struggling with finances due to my school loans and him getting a huge pay cut from work so a night out on someone else would be so amazing for us and our relationship. I really think the two of us deserve this because in all our ups and downs we always manage to still stay a strong couple and do what is best for our daughter. She is our gem and I truly feel like she is the happiest baby and how awesome of a job we do with her. I know that with changes like moving, school, work and everyday stresses that many people struggle to find the time in their lives for what is most important. My man and I have thankfully not lost us but we still and I'm sure will always struggle with more us time. I would love to be able to take him out for a night and show him I haven't lost my spark, it just needs to be brought out again! I have always made time for others in need and been very generous with my time in other areas to better my future , but now i need more Mommy and Daddy time. I think its important not just for us, but for my daughter to see her parents truly are strong people who really truly love one another. Thank you so much for this opportunity!

Shannon :)

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Permalink Reply by Lisa Bonolis on July 2, 2009 at 2:30pm

My husband and I could really use a date night. We both work full-time, which most families do these days. However, my husband and I barely see each other because I work at night and he works during the day. The reason why we do this is because we couldn't afford daycare any other way. My daughter only has to go to daycare 2 hours a day, which makes it much cheaper. The downside is that my husband and I only see each other on the weekends. I love spending my days with my daughter, but would also love some quality time with my husband. My daughter is 21 months old and is already starting her "terrible twos" so taking her out to a nice restaurant with us wouldn't be fun for anyone at the restaurant! :)

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Permalink Reply by Patty Mosso on July 4, 2009 at 6:42am

IM so in need of a date night Mom Logic, Because My Husband and I have not went on a date for OVER 10 years now. We always said we would. But then, We would not have a baby sitter, or we would not have the money. But we couldnever just go out. The sad thing is. I just found out I Have Lupus and Fibromylgia. And with this news came some pretty bad depression. I have not been able to smile much or even the want to do much. A date night would give me and my husband a very much needed night out. To reconnect. To remember what it was that made us fall so maddly in love 14 years ago. My daughter is now ten and are son is now 8. We have not been out with out the kids ever. And this would be awsome. I also think it would give me the chance to talk to my husband about things we never get to talk about any more. Sometimes I swear all we talk about the last few months has been if im feeling ok, or if I need anything. And he has done so much for me and the kids since I have been sick. I am blessed. And I know my Husband would sure love a night out with just the two of us. So thats why I feel I so deserve a night out with my sould mate.
PatriciaMosso@Rocketmail.com

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Permalink Reply by Angela HOOD on July 7, 2009 at 4:45am

Yes Please!! Our current date night scenario goes like this - the whole family heads over to grandma's (MIL!!!) house for dinner and then the kiddo spends the night. Doesn't sound too bad right? Well consider the fact that we don't eat until 7:30 and my hubby doesn't know how to eat and run and it is 9:30 before we leave. These are always during the week so my hubby has to get up for work the next day so going out after dinner with his parents is really out of the question. I keep trying to get him to realize that for it to be a date we need to have a few waking hours alone together! Love him, but he just doesn't get it on this one!

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Permalink Reply by Judy Maly on July 7, 2009 at 5:53am

OH BOY, I sure could use this!!!!! Date night? Not really sure how that would feel. LOL I have a son over in Iraq, this was the 1st 4th of July without him. We have a 9 year old daughter also, I'm the "neighborhood Mom". I have sleepovers at our house Every weekend. I'm not complaining, I love it. I know my daughter and her friends are having fun, and are safe!!!! But I have to be honest...... I sure would like a break one night.

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Permalink Reply by Melissa W on July 7, 2009 at 6:43am

My husband and I need to start to do date nights on a regular basis. Since my daughter was born in 2006, we have not had the chance to get out much. When Addison was 2 months old, we found out I had breast cancer. I have had numerous surgeries, two rounds of chemotherapy and also radiation therapy. I am now getting ready to begin chemotherapy again! It would be nice to spend some time with my husband and not have to worry about anything!

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Permalink Reply by LATISHA on July 7, 2009 at 7:25am

Hello,

I am a 31 year old mother of 3 boys (4, 6 and 12 yrs old). My husband and I barely see each other due to me working 1 fulltime job from 6am-3pm and one part time job from 4pm-8pm. He is up at 4am trying to make money and I am gone by 5:30am. We desperately need a night out. Our relationship is somewhat rocky because we really do not have time for each other in addition I have a very ill family member and I have been spending alot of time at the hospital making sure she is comfortable. I make as much time as I can to be able to have quality time to be with my husband but I am so drained after work that I just want to take a shower and go straight to bed. My husband is with the kids all day so by the time I get home he is usually asleep. It is taking somewhat of a strain on our relationship and I would like to see what we can rekindle by having a date night. We have been married 11 years and have been living apart for 10 years due to a personal matter. He is a great father and he loves me with all his heart. He is trying make me as happy as he can with what he has. I adore him, he is my High School sweetheart and I did get the man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I just need the time to be able to show him how much he means to me and how I appreciate all that he does.

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