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My mother-in-law has been living in my home (my home office to be exact) for going on 6 months now and my brother-in-law (who lived with us for 3 months last year) arrived in town last night and is staying in our den, on the couch for 13 days.

Having her in my house is like having a 3rd child. She has severe mood swings. She's pouting one minute saying things like "you don't love me anymore" to the kids and I, then the next minute she is humming. I mean, why do you have to hum in my home? Can't you go to my sister-in-law's house and hum?

- I have resigned to the fact that privacy doesn't exist anymore.
- She doesn't contribute financially.. at all.
- She doesn't buy groceries
- She eats our food, the kids snacks, and uses what we buy at the store (laundry detergent, etc) which is really annoying because I want my kids snacks to last more than 3 days!
- She ate most of the halloween candy and eats other 'goodies' we have in the house.
- She turns our air and heat on whatever she wants.
- She doesn't clean.. she straightens then carries on about how she 'cleaned' for me.
- She uses the kids' shampoo for her dogs and washes them in the kids bath tub.
- The kids, especially my 9 year old, is always wondering what kind of mood Nana is in at the moment.
- She is so loud it's incredibly annoying.
- She stays in her room all of the time, saying she's depressed or her back hurts so she can't do anything.
- She say's she's looking for a job, but isn't.
- Her kids (including my husband) are scared of hurting her feelings so they haven't had a serious conversation with her.

Just a couple more things I am going to stop my rant.. for now.

She has three dogs. She keeps the dogs in 'her' room (my old office) all day except when she takes them out to go to the bathroom twice a day. Other than that the poor dogs are in her room all day. We won't let them run around because when she first moved in, they left surprises behind and she can't seem to train them.

She doesn't play with the kids. She puts them in front of the TV. Her idea of babysitting (which we've only had her do twice maybe) is to rent movies and 'have a fun time watching telly'.
UGHH. I hate seeing the kids in front of the TV. They look like little zombies when they are watching TV.

She talks like a baby saying things like "I misseded you" to the kids. What the heck does misseded mean and what is 'telly'?

There is so much more I can say and maybe I will a little later, in part 2!

She is really wearing on my nerves and with working from home, caring for two kids, cleaning, cooking, helping with homework, phone calls, etc. Besides feeling like my feelings and issues with the situation don't matter at all, I don't need this extra stress. Who does?

I need some xanax please!

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Alicia Hagan Comment by Alicia Hagan on December 11, 2008 at 2:24pm
Hi everyone!
I am thrilled to announce that my mother-in-law is no longer living in my home. I had minor surgery last week and she took the opportunity to leave, saying that she didn't want her 3 dogs to annoy me while I was recovering. Huh? They never annoyed me and she new that. I found out a few days later that she felt like we didn't want her in the house anymore and decided to leave.

The way she left was very hard because she didn't say bye to the kids even though she passed right by them on her way out. I felt really bad for the kids.
The vibe in our house is so amazing now. There is such as sense of relief and independence.

I feel bad for the way I felt while she was staying with us, but I couldn't help my feelings. I tried to be the better person and not make her feel out of place. I am over it now and very grateful to have my house back and to not have the stress of wondering how she was feeling, when she was coming out of her room, etc. I love her, I really do, it just wasn't a good situation for any of us. She will be happier living on her own or with a friend who is compatible with her personality.

- Thanks for listening!
Alicia
T. Suzanne Eller Comment by T. Suzanne Eller on December 9, 2008 at 8:13am
There is a great book by Townsend and Cloud called "Boundaries". It is designed to help people create healthy boundaries to improve relationships and deal with situations where there needs to be boundaries, but there aren't any. Hope this is helpful to you.
GKJ Comment by GKJ on December 9, 2008 at 7:14am
Hey Alicia--I Read themommyinsider.com--great site!
So I read your post and my first thought is---isn't she afraid her mother in law will see this?!?! Or someone else? I have a blog and I have to literally restrain myself when I post because so many people read it. The only one I can really vent about is my dog. Anyway, just reading your post about your MIL made me feel annoyed for you. I can barely stand having company sometimes, but to have someone like that LIVING with you---I'm so sorry. Your hubby needs to step up and do something. I can understand him not wanting to hurt his mom's feelings, but he has got to put your family first.

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